• Drop the mask and step away from the pew

    I am lonely. That is what I am hearing, over and over again. Loners, leaders and ‘popular’ ladies all say it. So many women have shared stories with me over the last few weeks; some break my heart and others inspire me. Many have said that during their loneliness, ‘God was their all in all’. […]

  • Your one chance to live large

    Have you ever spoken to someone who is passionate about something? Ask them about their obsession and they will talk faster and faster for as long as you’ll let them. A fire burns deep within them that seems to almost feed itself. It’s a beautiful thing to see a person blossom in their unique calling […]

  • A Tender, Grace Filled Response to Jen Hatmaker

    The Bible does not contain God’s Word. It IS God’s Word. All of It. This is often not an easy, palatable, reconcilable Truth. But it is the Truth nonetheless. Truth that is not always easy to swallow. I remember when my children were toddlers.  Feeding them anything new meant being prepared for tightly closed mouths, […]

  • Confessions of a Female Pharisee

    How I overcame prejudices to love unconditionally Years ago when I was ‘perfect’, I would listen to women’s struggles and prayer requests, tilt my head and judge them to hell and back. Abortions, sexual sins, wayward children . . . Clearly they were not walking a true Christian walk. Right? I grew up in church […]

  • Letting go of unbelief…

    Since the beginning of time a syndrome has been affecting loving parents across the world. I call it, ‘Lord I believe, help my unbelief!’ Typically, the condition doesn’t manifest right away. As new parents, we confidently stand before God and others, and dedicate our children to the Lord. We plan brunch, invite friends and family, and […]

  • Living large…

    Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith; if service, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching; the one who exhorts, in his exhortation; the one who contributes, in generosity; the one who leads, with zeal; the one […]

  • My heart is leaking…

    “Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Philippians 2:3-4 A few years ago, a sick friend in the hospital asked my husband, Don why his marriage was falling apart. […]

  • Wonder Woman…

    Women like to hear people’s stories. They gravitate to autobiographies, biographies and when bored in lineups at grocery stores, read the trashy magazine covers to fill the need for more; because so many stories are filled with hope, victory, pain and love, (not necessarily in that order).   But why do we love to read […]

  • The Church lady in the mirror…

    There is something going on. And it’s not good. In the past two weeks, I have had countless women bring up the topic of rejection from ‘church ladies’ until I seriously can no longer ignore it. Women from work, cashiers at stores, and—one crazy deal—a woman who remembered me from a retreat we both attended […]