Bye-bye victim-hood: My one trick to help you turn your thinking around in any situation

See if you recognize any of these thoughts:

‘Why does this always happen to me?’

‘No matter what I do I can’t seem to get ahead’

‘It’s not my fault this is happening’

Your car is breaking down, work isn’t going well, your baby isn’t sleeping – just general life things that seem to all happen at the same time, can lead you to certain questions. I Know myself, if I’m not careful I can fall into a victim mentality.

When I do, I start asking these questions – which are full of self-pity and frankly are totally dis-empowering – because it puts me in a position that starts to believe nothing in life is in my control and I’m helpless. Which is completely not true. As a child of God, you are ‘beautifully and wonderfully made’.

The truth is, when ‘things’ happen – your fridge breaks down, you have an argument with a loved one or something really tragic occurs – you have a choice in how you respond.

So what if, instead of responding as a victim, you flip the question? You are only going to receive as good of an answer as your question is.

So instead of ‘why is this happening to me?’ ask something more empowering, such as: ‘what am I meant to learn through this?

What are you trying to teach me right now?’ ‘what is it that I have to be transformed or healed in this area?’.

But I’m here to remind you, as a child of God – you have a royal heritage – full of honor, grace, wisdom and peace. Lean into that.

In John 14:27 it says,” Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”