• The road of singleness

    Yes, it’s true I’m still young, just barely 21 to be exact. You may think I have no business writing on this subject. You may just be plain sick of the topic in general. Perhaps you feel like you’ve heard all there is to hear on singleness. I won’t even try to pretend I have […]

  • Because he’s the one with the problem!

    Counseling sessions with my husband always started out the same. On the drive there I would envision the therapist agreeing that I was right and that my husband needed to change. It would surely be a life-changing hour for him. But the counseling sessions always ended the same. Half way through after being shocked that […]

  • When your marriage isn’t what you thought it would be…

    Marriage isn’t what you see in the movies. Or on television. Marriage isn’t what you hear about in the songs. It doesn’t look like the marriages of the rich and famous. It isn’t what you dreamed of before you were…married. Shouldn’t I feel different in my marriage? Shouldn’t we be different together? No one told […]

  • Hill of Beans…

    My favorite movie is Casa Blanca. There is a scene where Humphrey Bogart is talking to Ingrid Bergman, and he refers to their love affair in the midst of WWII as meaning as much to the world as a hill of beans. There are bigger problems than two separated lovers.  I have been talking to […]

  • Emotional abuse: The invisible train wreck

    In hindsight, I never felt my relationship with my husband of twenty-two years was abusive. One would certainly think it would be so easily detected; so easily felt. I would have never believed it could have been part of my life. The abuse had crept into my life effortlessly and I subconsciously learned to survive […]

  • Facing an unexpected storm…

    I sat on the end of my bed holding my hands over my face and began to weep uncontrollably. I felt so all alone, torn, confused, ashamed, bitter… Because of my poor choices and sinful, selfish desires, my entire world had come crashing down. My marriage was falling apart right before my eyes and I […]

  • 4 Biblical Strategies for Honoring Your In Laws

    You’re probably familiar with Exodus 20:12 –“honor your father and mother”. While fumbling over “Nan-uh, Mrs., uh, Mom?” it isn’t always obvious that this command applies to your relationship with your in laws too. According to the current stereotype, in laws are common household enemies. There’s even the popular mantra that “you don’t just marry […]

  • Help! I don’t look sick…

    In the early years of my caregiver career I had the honor of caring for both of my maternal grandparents.  My grandfather suffered a debilitating stroke which left him paralyzed on the left side of his body and bound to a wheelchair for the remaining 18 years of his life.  At the same time, my […]

  • My heart is leaking…

    “Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Philippians 2:3-4 A few years ago, a sick friend in the hospital asked my husband, Don why his marriage was falling apart. […]

  • Is this really the day of love?

    Advertisers love Valentine’s Day.   Valentines’ day has Australians spending $908+ million dollars on romantic getaways, dinner, jewelry, and chocolates, with the average Australian spending $40. (  The down side to a day dedicated to love is that if you’re recently divorced, had a spouse die, broke up with your partner, or just had a general […]